To Cuff or Not to Cuff?

Cuff- To make an unofficial relationship, official.

Cuff Season- choosing a girl/boy out of your summer roster to Cuff for the winter. Usually from November until May.



Now you may or may not be familiar with cuffing. In my eyes Cuffing is a negative thing, and I will tell you why. Not so much the act of cuffing but the way it is done. Usually cuffing is done like this: A man talks to a few girls in the summer then chooses one girl to be with for the winter, or vise versa. Don't sound that bad huh? Okay, but by the time spring rolls around things begin to change. Soon enough he's going to want to be single so he can be free to talk to whomever he see's in a tank and short shorts. Another way someone would cuff you is if they meet you and they move fast. They call you baby and all these cute names after only a month or so. This is because they are trying to recruit you for the winter. I call this Crunch Time Drafting. They ran out of options and need a mate quick! Unbeknownst to you, you probably been cuffed this winter!



I don't take any relationship that has started in this fashion seriously. I actually turned down a guy because he asked me to be his girlfriend in October. The reason? I met him in March and we hit it off right away. Everything was smooth but then around June he said that he really liked me but he's "scarred to be in a relationship because he just got out of one". Bull! He got out of a relationship in November. I'm no dummy, I knew what his game plan was so I played along. I decreased the text & calls and did my own thing. I wasn't going to invest time in a person who wasn't willing to be with me because of the weather. He later admitted his REAL reason why he wanted to postpone "Us". (Now there's an "us") I was not feeling this or him for that matter so I cut him off completely. He keep calling, I kept ignoring. On a bored day I decided to hear him out. He said that he really missed me, even went as far to say that he loves me, and that he would be happy if we can talk more often. I said okay & one day he asked me to be with him. I wasn't falling for the okie doke and said a firm No. If he would have let nature take it's course then I would of said Yes. I will not be put on hold. Never did & as long as it is in my power, Never will.



If you don't mind being cuffed for the winter there are a few perks. You have another place to eat for Thanksgiving, an extra gift for Xmas, a kiss on New Years and a date for Valentines day. And most importantly you can get sex without have to call up someone random and having to pay their cab home, or catching a cab. No one wants to give drive by booty in the winter, It's too cold to be traveling in the middle of the night. Just remember don't give your all because you may find yourself single by Easter.



I don't suggest that you partake in such foolery because who's to say that you were his 1st choice. You never want to be a person's "back-up girl/boy". It's more satisfying to know that the guy you like wants to be with you because he likes you and won't care that other people know that he is in a relationship. He would be proud to hold your hand in the snow or under the hot sun (maybe not, sweaty palms aren't romantic. But you get my drift). I'm not saying every time someone ask you to be with them that they have an ulterior motive but just think about it because people are selfish. If this situation arises take a step back and ask yourself: To Cuff or Not to Cuff?